//Lets Talk About…Bisexuality//

Earlier on this week, Victoria wrote an important post about bisexual myths in aid of supporting #BiWeek. Before reading her post, I didn’t even know bi week was a thing (being relatively new to the lgbt+ community) and as soon as I heard of it I just had to get involved.

GLAAD – an organisation that uses the media to educate society about the struggles LGBT people face and helping them overcome them by promoting equality.  (Graphic is from here).

As part of #BiWeek – co-created by GLADD – today, 23rd September 2016, marks annual Celebrate Bisexuality Day so I though it would be fitting to talk about my feelings towards bi-erasure which is something that, sadly, often goes hand-in-hand with bisexuality.

Bisexual erasure can be defined as:

the tendency to ignore, remove, falsify, or reexplain evidence of bisexuality in history, academia, news media and other primary sources. In its most extreme form, bisexual erasure can include denying that bisexuality exists.

As you can probably guess, bi-erasure can take many forms. The one I have come across most, however, is the misunderstanding that sexuality is determined by the gender of the person you are in a relationship with. For instance, if you are in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex, it is automatically assumed you are straight, and if you are in a relationship with a member of the  same sex, it is automatically assumed you are gay.

I think the basis of this misconception boils down to lack of awareness as to what bisexuality actually is. So here’s a quick definition:

Bisexuality – being attracted to both members of the same sex and the opposite sex but not necessarily equally or at the same.

Therefore, a bisexual person can be in a relationship with a member of the same sex, knowing that there is the possibility of them being attracted to a member of the opposite sex in the future and vice versa. When bisexual people enter relationships with members of the same sex, they don’t magically ‘become’ gay, the same as they don’t ‘become’ straight when they’re in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.
Although it’s great that society is coming to accept lesbians and gay men more, we need to clarify that there aren’t just gay people and straight people, that there are many other sexualities in between, bisexuality being one of them.

So, when a bisexual person is in a relationship with someone of the same sex, they are bisexual. And when a bisexual person is in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, guess what? They are still bisexual.

I understand the concept of bisexuality can be confusing to some people, but I hope my post has helped to show you just how straightforward it is, or should be. πŸ™‚

By spreading the word and helping people understand bisexuality, the issue of bi-erasure will (hopefully) be tackled. Because it’s hard enough trying to figure out what your sexuality is, then find the confidence to identify as that only to be told that your sexuality ‘doesn’t exist’ or is ‘just a phase’. So to all my fellow bisexuals, lets spend today celebrating our sexuality and fighting against bi-erasure and the various forms it can take. πŸ™‚


Author: Em is Lost

I'm a teenage blogger who loves adventure and the great outdoors. I enjoy blogging about a range of topics including scouting, politics, feminism, world affairs and the life of a teenager in general.

8 thoughts on “//Lets Talk About…Bisexuality//”

  1. OOH YOU MADE THE BI PRIDE FLAG WITH ITEMS THAT IS SO AWESOME. And yeah, it’s so frustrating when people describe being bi as half gay, half straight or whatever. That is not how it works. Bisexuality is its own identity, and we are just bi all the time! (I feel like I could make some really good puns here, but they are not coming to my mind.) Anyways, fab post — I really want to write something for bi week but as of yet I have no ideas except for, like, flailing about cool books and stuff. Which just happens a lot anyways haha.

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    1. YAS THANKS. It really is! Exactly! (omg I should get my phone’s personal assistant to call me ‘bi all the thime’ tat would be gr8). Thank you!! You should write something, even if it is just flailing over books bc books are awesome too!!

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  2. Yes, I love this! It shouldn’t be that difficult to understand, I don’t know why people struggle so much… I actually didn’t know how bi week was created though, so I did learn something from this post! πŸ™‚

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  3. Welcome to the community! Great post about bi erasure. Another thing to think about is how when straight people aren’t in a relationship, their sexuality isn’t questioned. Same goes for Bisexuals. Even if they aren’t in a relationship, they’re still Bi. Also, I love that your definition of bisexuality included that you don’t have to like both genders equally. However, I, and many others, define it a little differently, which I think is perfectly okay since there is no one true definition of bisexual. For me, my bisexuality is same gender and other genders. Others may think of it as pansexual, but I identify more with bisexual, but that’s just me, identities are personal and complicated. Anyways, can’t wait to see more posts about bisexuality from you!

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  4. Great little post, and quite refreshing after I just engaged with a post that tried to argue bisexuality didn’t exist. However, I’m only just starting to socialise with LGBT groups, but still find it difficult to bring up my orientation without fearing people may judge, as the prejudice is from all sides I find, not just with those who identify as straight. Hopefully the message can delivered in numbers that we do exist!

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    1. Thank you, I’m glad you found it refreshing. I understand, it’s difficult to feel comfortable enough to open about your sexuality in a world where LGBT people still face discrimination on a daily basis, even if not directly but through the media. I do feel as if sometimes amongst the LGBT community it can sometimes feel as if you need to ‘prove’ you’re sexuality in order to feel accepted, but I think this again stems from bi-erasure! But yes I agree, I hope if we educate people about bisexuality and it’s existence it will help us bi people to feel more accepted in society.

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